The reality is, unless I meet someone really soon, and very quickly figure out that I want to have children, it might not happen.
And dating one can feel like I get to play grown-up in their presence, too, like maybe their adultness will rub off on me.
In the past year alone, I've had two guys tell me that between their demanding jobs and their children, they didn't have time for a relationship.
The first lived out of town — at the beginning of January, we were talking about him planning a trip to visit me in New York later that month.
Some men even look a little war-torn and beaten down when they talk about their divorces.
Going through emotionally difficult experiences, or having life not work out as you'd expected or hoped, tends to build character, compassion, and depth.